It’s that time of year again, where we dash through the shops picking up new stationary, new backpacks, and new school shoes. The start of school can be stressful enough, but it can be even trickier when we add in the pressures of a separated or blended family.
The holiday season can be an especially difficult time for separated families. Differing commitments, unusual work arrangements and stressful relatives can make this period feel like a minefield of potential battles. However tricky or tense this season may be for your family, here are some important questions to ask yourself as you prepare to manage the holidays in a separated family.
Domestic violence is a form of violence that occurs within a relationship. There are a wide range of activities that fall within domestic violence and the effects are far reaching. As lawyers we see the real and deep impact that domestic violence has, especially on the mental health of our clients and their children. We encourage anyone who has gone through any type of violence to reach out to professional help and speak to a counsellor.
People often assume that men can push off any emotion and just soldier on, even during a divorce. This view of men only serves to make the problem worse. The breakdown of a relationship involves significant emotions and can feel like the grief of losing a loved one. Separation is not like repairing a car. It may not be able to be fixed quickly, and you may not be able to predict your emotions day-by-day. It’s important to acknowledge those feelings, keep your head above water and manage your mental health during this period.
Going through a divorce is a difficult and emotional time for the parents, and often your kids. Separation involves making several major family decisions, like where each partner will live, and the division of time with the children between parents. Although it can be a chaotic time with so many changes, it is essential to focus on your children’s wellbeing throughout the process of divorcing.